Relationship talk ver. 3

Awesome random seemingly mature etc. Facts:

Proximity effect:

Mga taong laging kasama mo, madalas magkakagusto ka, kahit slight lang.

Gray Area:

Wala kang pinapanigan, pero it's still a choice along side black and white.

Replacement for the Lost Reinforcement:

"Pinakilig ka lang, minahal mo na agad." Yan ung tinatawag na paghahanap ng..ginawa mong panakip butas, in short. Sabihin natin na genuine yang feelings mo pero may part na pagkiling sayo because of your 

1.) characteristics, personality 2.) awa

Pero nung time na un, ang context mo you're undergoing postbreakup

Post Breakup Syndrome:

Yung feeling na kunyari tinuturuan kang lumangoy, may naka-hawak pa sayo kaso iniwan ka. It's either matuto kang lumangoy on your own to save yourself or humanap ka ng kakapitan na iba, thus foregoing ung fact na pwede kang matuto from it. Pero pag kumapit ka sa iba, hindi ka natutong lumangoy.

Plunging to various ideas is great, but be prepared.

I like the idea of loving, madali lang magmahal. Pag mahal mo tlga isang tao mamamaintain mo yan.

kaya nga may priorities; sometimes to the detriment of yourself.

You can always manage yourself; Pag gusto may paraan; pero I have my priorities.

Kaya nga gusto ko fling lang, I get affirmations, I get sweet talks, without relationships.

Keep calm and move on. Life goes on eh.

Best way to start a new relationship is ung feeling na blank slate ka.......sa lahat ng bitter feelings kung hindi bitter feelings, at least ung "hurt". In a way nagiging selfish ka kapag pinatulan mo ung sumasalo sayo habang nagmomove on ka. Clinging desperately to someone pag may kailangan ka lang ifulfill na emotional needs mo

pag di mo kailangan, discarded sa tabi. Wag kang maging egocentric. Isipin mo na lang kung ikaw ginanyan.

Anong mararamdaman mo?

Gugustuhin mo ba yan mangyari sayo?

Yan problema ng mundo eh, we make certain actions without thinking ano yung pwedeng mangyari sa iba. Or, what we would have felt kung sa atin ginawa ung action na un.

"Di ko b sya pde bigyan ng chance? To make me fall in love?"

That's a desperate attempt to salvage what's left of your relationship. Mainlove ka pag sure ka nang wala ka nang masyadong emotional baggage na bibitbitin sa next relationship mo. That means, hindi ka nakasabit sa isang semi-relationship

Go flourish on your own first. You'd have to resolve your issues first.

Why do you always want to love?

"I want that feeling of being protected and cared for..and vice versa"

Do you have conditions in loving or falling in love?

"Normally.. they just have to be extra nice to me. The high ambitions and IQ.. is the duration test how long I'd be in love. And, I can also be in love just with a list of few coincidences and similarities."

Can you define what an unconditional love is?

"You'll love that person under any circumstances no matter who or what he is?"

When thinking about the "real thing", consider that without thinking that you could change a person.

You don't change a person.

We are young, a lot of things could happen.

--DMAP